The last hour before bedtime can look very different in many families. While some parents rely on quiet activities such as reading or soft lighting to pave the way to dreamland, others swear that a final workout is the best way to help children get a deep sleep. But what do experts say about these opposing approaches? And why do mothers often tend towards one and fathers towards the other? Let's delve into the world of bedtime rituals.
The soft landing: rituals of rest
Rituals of calm are often associated with mothers who use the evening routine to create a relaxing environment. This may include reading in dim light, playing soft music, or watching softly shimmering night lights. These activities are thought to stimulate the parasympathetic nervous system - the part of the nervous system that helps us relax and get ready for sleep.
Advantages:
- Promotes calmness and helps you switch off
- Supports the development of a fixed bedtime routine
- Creates a close emotional bond between parent and child
The last round of the daily marathon: Rituals of the Storm
On the other hand, there are the "rituals of the storm" that are often favored by fathers. This can be a final wild game in which the children use up their remaining energy before going to bed. The idea behind this is that children will fall asleep more easily when they are physically tired and have gotten rid of their excess energy.
Advantages:
- Lets children release their excess energy
- Can lead to falling asleep faster as physical tiredness is noticeable
- Strengthens physical fitness and coordination
The expert opinion
Sleep experts tend to recommend a calmer approach to bedtime, as overstimulation close to bedtime can lead to difficulty falling asleep. However, every child is unique, and what is true for one child may not necessarily be true for another.
Final thoughts
The decision to use quiet or active bedtime routines should be made based on the child's temperament and needs. It is important that parents develop a routine that is consistent and predictable to provide the child with security and stability.